#phan shipper

[amazingkaiinof]

Guys I decided to take a break and delete my mental health so I can focus more on Dan and Phil

[helpimsleepdeprived]

invisible string theory 2009-2024

[godmademewithoutarms]

Everytime Dan or Phil says something that would imply they were ever more than friends I feel like I'm intruding. Like I need to stop listening I'm committing a crime

[pseudophan]

i never 'shipped' dan and phil i was just merely an empath who sensed their gay thoughts through a screen

i did that too but i also shipped them crazy fujoshi style

[pidglette]

you lot hated me for posting #phurtis but i know that shit made ill phil giggle and feel a little bit better

[dnpbeats]

bro i just need to log off of every social media… wdym it was less obvious ten years ago…. ten years ago when every single post about d&p was phan proof? when people posted their old tweets and formspring answers every day?? when for every one person who thought they were straight there were ten people who were finding what hotel they were staying in to prove they shared a bed??? that ten years ago?

[pichirobi]

your "hard to swallow pill" post was so refreshing to come across while scrolling the dnp tag. so many of these fans just focus on how "dnp are the ones making the jokes, ofc they're okay with it!" and refuse to look any deeper than that - as if this justifies anything you could possibly say about their relationship! they might be fine with some of it now but as you said there is also some very real bitterness about how their privacy has been invaded in the past, and we should all be aware of that. I also just find it strange to interpret all of their interactions as if they're leaving us hints about their relationship at all times. not everything is a hint for us specifically and the idea that they would be hyping up their relationship reveal as if it's an upcoming product they're releasing is very odd to me. and the way people overanalyze every single thing they say is getting annoying especially when the fans are gasping about a phrasing that would be completely normal whether someone is in a platonic or romantic relationship.... it's a bit much at times

sorry for the rant in your inbox, I just really appreciated your post! <3

hi anon, i LOVE this ask!!!

i posted it mostly because i've noticed some people tentatively making similar posts and noting that they were afraid to do so, as it may be an unpopular opinion. i shared my opinion to make it easier for others to start these kinda conversations.

i absolutely agree and think that some fans view dan and phil's videos through a strong shipping lens, and so everything they say is placed in the context of their relationship. people begin to watch phan instead of dan and phil. which is a little sad to me, as they are both great entertainers outside of their relationship, and we know from dan that the true nature of their relationship is the one thing they get to have that's just for the two of them.

to be fair, it is tricky navigating this as a viewer—the product that these entertainers are selling is their dynamic, their friendship, and so we are invited to engage with it. but we also have to police ourselves, because we are guests invited to experience a bit of their friendship. we are being sold the product of "dan and phil", but we also don't own them. i think it's healthy to take what they do/say at face value and to not fantasize about what they must be doing off camera. (i mean, having these thoughts are fine of course haha, it's okay of course to ship them. i just think we should step back and understand that us creating expectations for their relationship can be hurtful for a fan in a parasocial sense, and when taken to far, can become invasive. ie. the point of the "we are in a relationship" dystopia daily video. and so, we should ship phan with a grain of salt.)

i don't think anyone on tumblr's causing real harm/stress to dan and phil, and they're adults they can handle their audience, but i'm sharing these thoughts to encourage a certain mindset when we watch their videos! we have responsibilities as well.

like you, i also personally find it annoying when people take normal sentences/actions that dan and phil say/do, and then extrapolate their headcanons onto it to make it shipping content. 🥸 people say they're joking about the marriage theory, but there's a difference between saying smth genuine in a silly/joking tone, versus actually treating the whole thing like a joke. 🥸 but these folks are just shipping! as long as they know they are putting the fiction in rpf, and don't become obsessive, there's no harm. the phandom is the most mature and healthy it's ever been!

[tesseractingrey]

i was watching a video essay on another rpf ship and like. comparing any other rpf ship to phan is so different it’s crazy. like yeah back in 2012 or whatever maybe it wasn’t so obvious but the things that other rpf shippers have as “evidence” are like “they looked at each other 10 times in this interview” or “this lyric is probably about her” meanwhile we have dan and phil buying a house together and selling tshirts of themselves holding hands. so like yeah phan is real and all but that doesn’t mean all rpf shippers are onto something here the situations are so different it’s crazy. taylor swift could never like a tweet about serving karlie kloss dressed as a slutty nun.

[ifwebefriends]

Me like a month ago: wow I really like the ship of The Chosen and Brianna Boho, they’re so opposites but so cute together 🥰 but I don’t ship shourtney because I have complicated feelings about rpf shipping and they just seem to be like coworkers and good friends 😊

Me now: …welp!….

[theselfshipcafe]

you're not so bad up close...

[dnphan]

this is not something i thought i would see in 2024 ngl…………..

[dysthoepiadaily]

A lot of you ENJOYED the interactive introverts era, and it shows. I look down on you for it, bc that shit pushed me right out.

[stuckyfootrest]

Being a post coming out phan is so crazy bc I just watched a video where Dan calls Phil a power bottom and Phil side eyes Dan for inadvertently saying he wants to receive doggy style.

And I am alive, breathing, and didn’t know about it until 2 weeks after the video had been posted 😭

[pseudophan]

my follower count fluctuates a lot and i don't usually pay attention to it cause this is such an old blog at this point that the numbers don't actually mean anything like i just assume most of them are inactive. that being said it's so funny when i post something very like, shippy, and immediately lose like four followers. it happens a lot! and idk if it's just a coincidence or if it's specifically because of what i just posted but by now it's happened so many times i can only assume it's because of my posts and i just... be so serious what did you think you were signing up for here

[pidglette]

[dnpbeats]

I wasn't here during tatinof. Did they not share a bed in the bus or? I know that I've seen a few videos from during ii in hotel rooms and it seemed like they had one bed

their official story is that phil got the big bed and dan slept in a bunk. they stage a rock paper scissors match where phil wins the bed in story of tatinof (which I definitely will not link to a reupload of) at 26:31. while the rock paper scissors thing was a joke, they did genuinely purport that phil got the bed. iirc dan posted an insta story or something from the bunk?? bc in my memory we knew phil "got" the bedroom before the tour doc was released

people assumed this was BS for a multitude of reasons. aside from the assumption that d&p are together and therefore share a bed, it also just seemed unfair for dan to have to cram himself into a tiny ass bunk while phil got a whole bed to himself 😭 bc even if they weren't together it would still make sense for them to share the bed. like bed sharing platonically is a thing lol. any, there was also this embroidery sign that said "dan and phil" that they hung on the door which a lot of people assumed was bc it was their bedroom together :3 (though I am just now realizing the sign is actually on the door to the back area of the bus that includes the bathroom, you can see the bedroom door behind phil in this pic! I've been believing a lie for 8 years :/)

(sorry phil for the ss <3 also two seconds after this he "wakes up" dan in the bunk LMAO)

at the very least we know they would hang out in there together based on this famous part of the doc. so like, long story short, pretty much everyone believes they shared the bed, but as far as what d&p have told us, only phil slept in the bed